Married couple at Selston care home share their story to mark National Couples Day

Tom and Ann White, who live at Wren Hall Nursing Home, Nottingham Road, Selston, reminisced about their time together after first meeting at The Robin Hood pub in Brinsley, just three miles from where they now live.

It was Tom, now aged 76, who spotted Ann first, and said he could not help but be drawn to her charm, saying: “Ann looked beautiful, and I knew she was the one for me.”

Married for what the couple jokingly call a "bloody long time" – they married on April 6, 1978, at Ilkeston Registry Office – the White’s shared their secret to a lasting relationship.

Ann, 85, said: "Trust in each other. Never go to bed on an argument. Life is a lesson.”

Tom joked: “If the man gives in to the woman, it's better. Happy wife, Happy life.”

Through the years, they have built a family legacy with children from Ann's previous marriage and some energetic grandchildren.

As they reflected on their proudest achievements, Ann admitted: "Mine is marrying him, and his is marrying me.” Tom added: “You big-headed sod! But I agree, mine is our life together.”

Now family members of Wren Hall, their connection remains as strong as ever.

When asked about the best part about living in the home, they agreed it was the fact they could be together.

Keeping on the theme of togetherness, when asked if they had any further couple goals, Tom said: “Ask God if he’ll promise to take us to the next place together.”

Anita Astle, Wren Hall, owner and manager, said: “Ann and Tom stand as a testament to the enduring power of love and companionship. Their relationship is a reminder a bit of humour is important in a happy marriage, and we’re looking forward to helping them continue their fun and laughter together for years to come at Wren Hall.”

Wren Hall – rated outstanding by the Care Quality Commission health watchdog – strives to provide a homely and friendly environment to help those living with dementia to achieve optimum independence. Part of this includes referring to those who reside in the home as ‘family members’ rather than residents.