Jason Lloyd
Jason Lloyd

Last week I was catching up with an old school friend of mine in a pub in Mansfield. We hadn’t seen one another since leaving school.

He’s a software developer, and when the conversation eventually progressed onto the topic of his love life, he complained about how he is still waiting to find ‘the one.’

I asked him when the last time he had a date was. He replied “6 months ago”. This really got me thinking. On the one hand, he was complaining that he wanted to find love, yet at the same time, he seemed to be taking no action whatsoever to get closer to this goal. So what could he expect?

I know for a fact that my friend is not the only guy in Mansfield who isn’t taking action with his love life. Do people really think that their dream girl will just magically appear out of thin air?

Well, I think it’s time for the single men of Mansfield to start taking control of their love lives. There is no reason why they can’t start organising dates. After all, what is more enjoyable than getting to know a lovely young lady over a decent bottle of wine in a quiet little lounge bar somewhere?

There really are few greater pleasures in life.

So, that’s all very well and good, but how do you start getting dates in the first place? And what’s the best way to meet a girl?

Well, there are many options. You could ask that hottie at work out for a drink. I actually don’t recommend doing this though, because if she rejects the offer it can get awkward, and you will still have to work together indefinitely.

You can start going out a couple of times a week with friends, and start socialising with different groups of people. This can get expensive though, and alcohol can be too much of a temptation for some. Getting more intoxicated than a bottle of Famous Grouse is not the best strategy for finding love. Online dating websites are a good option. And there’s always the possibility of using dating apps like Tinder. My only real issue with online dating is that unless your profile is top notch, it can be difficult to see any results.

But what if there was a better way? Well, the good news is that there is. I have found through teaching many students that the most effective way for finding your next girlfriend is by meeting her in the daytime.

Let’s say, for example, that you are browsing through the shelves of a bookshop, and you spot a girl that takes your fancy. What should you do next?

In my opinion, there are five main things to remember when it comes to a situation like this.

Firstly, you need to stop making excuses. You need to stop procrastinating, and just say hello to her.

Something as simple as “hey, I know this may sound a little strange, but you look really nice today, so I wanted to come and say hello”. Don’t try and use pick-up lines, because unless you can deliver them with one hundred per cent conviction, and a cheeky smile, it’s unlikely to come off very well.

The most important thing is to just be real with her. She will appreciate the fact that you have been bold enough to approach her in the first place.

Secondly, you need to remember to smile. This is often completely ignored by men as they try to chat up women, but it is so important. Smiling is contagious, and it also will help her to relax more in your presence. If you can relax her, then you will also feel more relaxed, so the conversation will flow much easier.

Don’t forget to introduce yourself. After you have said hello, introduce yourself by giving her a handshake, saying something like “I’m Jason by the way. Nice to meet you”.

Now, after you have spoken to her for a few minutes, it’s a good idea to suggest going for a quick coffee somewhere. This is very effective, because if you can sit down in front of each other in a coffee shop environment, then the interaction suddenly changes. It no longer feels like you are strangers. It actually starts to feel more like a date situation. Having a nice chat over a cup of coffee is a great way to get to know each other.

Finally, if both of you seem to be getting on well, then you need to remember to exchange contact details – preferably mobile numbers, although adding each other on Facebook is another sound

So, to the single men of Mansfield, let me finish by saying this. There are endless opportunities to start getting your love lives under control, so start taking massive amounts of action, and let’s make 2014 your most enjoyable year yet.

Jason Lloyd is a leading dating and lifestyle coach, author of ‘Getting Laid’, and founder of Real Attraction Academy. Through his online boot camps, and YouTube channel, he teaches men all over the world how to meet and attract the girl of their dreams during the daytime, by helping them to increase self-confidence and take action. To find out more, and to get your FREE copy of Jason’s latest book, visit